I don't struggle to accept that men and women approach problem-solving or conflict resolution differently. Nor that in some cases one will be more skilled than the other based on their God-given disposition and inclination toward, for example, target acquisition and mission accomplishment (men); or consideration of feelings and recognition of equally important side effects of words and deeds, (women). I also know that women can perceive the best direct path to a solution, just like men can be sensitive and consider a variety of feelings. Accepting that your spouse will provide you wisdom when needed is something you can comfortably rely on and accept. But this is not your best resource. It just may be the one you're less inclined to doubt because you can see your spouse and have faith that he or she will respond to your need. The struggle we have is placing that same “I believe you will do what I ask and give me what I need” Faith in God. James acknowledges this in James 1:6-8 as he addresses doubt. Wisdom is a gift from God that we are specifically directed to request from Him, (James 1:5), with the promise of God delivering on our request. But just like a marriage where partners are skeptical of each other’s advice or skeptical of whether they are sources of good counsel, God isn't interested in a faithless relationship with us. We are directed to ask for wisdom from God “in faith, without doubting." (v.6) Because the doubter (v.7) “should not expect to receive anything from the Lord." So, when you pray for wisdom, get ready to receive it - or else don't expect it at all.